Yes. You can create your own reality. I can too. Did you know we are really powerful wizards? I know, there will be scoffs, there will be people who will raise their eyebrow and think “this chick is off her rocker” and move on and that’s totally ok. My husband might be one of those people who moves on from this post, haha! Some people aren’t ready to hear that they are the reason they are in whatever position they are in. Whether it’s a good position or a bad position, it’s because of your thoughts and inner dialogue.
There is some pretty good scientific research out there, in addition to some pretty powerful creators who can back this stuff up. Tony Robbins, he is pretty well-known, and pretty darn successful, and he uses his mind to create his reality. He uses the power of POSITIVE thinking to get what he wants. He uses visualization techniques to see what he wants and he’s very successful at it. He uses a grateful heart and mind, he thanks the universe for his blessings. It sounds like a bunch of made up bunk to those who have never taken the time to try to open their mind beyond what they have been taught their entire lives, and it did to me at first too. You aren’t born to become a negative being. You are born into this world full of love and you are meant to be a loving, positive shining light. My sister was really the first person who introduced me to imagination creating reality. What in the world? How on earth would anyone believe this garbage? Well, I do believe it now and I don’t think it’s garbage. I do believe that when we are more positive, more positive things happen to us. I also believe that when we tend to be negative, more negative things happen to us. There are literally hundreds, if not thousands of books written on the subject. Here is my affiliate link from Tony Robbins himself, 33 Life Mastery Lessons & Free Morning Routine. The man is successful, he is positive and he creates his reality. He uses techniques of visualization to see how he wants his day to go. He wakes in the morning and comes up with a handful of things he’s grateful for, he takes 10 minutes to reflect on those things and really feel the feeling of gratitude and he lives a much more positive life than most of us. If you know nothing about Tony Robbins, do some research.
We all have been given blinders – do you know what a blinder is? On a horses harness when they are hooked up to a buggy or wagon, look at the horse’s head. The things that stick off in front of their eyes is called blinders and it prevents them from seeing beside them or looking back behind them to keep them from getting spooked. From an early age, your parents said something to you or something you overheard that limited your thought patterns, much like blinders prevent carriage horses from seeing. This begins to form your thought patterns and if you are given negative thought patterns, guess where your life is headed? It’s easy to get stuck in the rut of negative patterns. You know one of the biggest contributors to the negativity? The news. I HATE the news. I will not watch the news because it is filled with vile, repulsive reports and I personally can’t handle getting stuck in the negativity of a news story. I can’t stand hearing about another murder or another case of road rage, or robbery or….. finishing this sentence. I can’t do it. It sucks the happy out of my soul, it causes me to get angry very quickly and act out with that anger. It takes me a while to get over being angry after being forced to even hear anything that happened on the news. The worst is when I’m in a doctor’s office and they have the news on and almost everyone in there is GLUED to the TV watching whatever horrid report that is currently on. Nope. I can’t do it, I won’t do it. When my dad comes to visit, he wants to watch the news. I’m sorry but I can’t. I will put it on for the weather very quickly and then off it goes. I don’t even watch the weather. I had no idea that there was a tropical disturbance a few weeks ago and you know what? I was just fine. I have my weather app that tells me when we can expect rain, and it tells me if there are any special weather statements I need to be aware of. My world will NOT end because I refuse to watch the news. Even typing about this I’m getting all worked up.
How hard would it be to drop one negative pattern in your day? Just one. What negative pattern can you live without for one day? complaining? Demanding perfection and then getting disappointed in yourself when its not perfect? Road rage? IMAGINE how awesome driving would be (this comment is for you, Houstonians) if EVERYONE would stop road raging! How hard would it be for you to quit tailgating and actually let that car in that has it’s blinker going? It’s REALLY not that hard to do. Take a deep breath, repeat a calming mantra and let people in. Traffic is negative, I wish we could all quit traffic. BUT it CAN be a great place to start meditating and shifting some of those thought patterns that can cause you to get all worked up and feeling icky. Obviously, pay attention to traffic, but work on being calmer in the traffic. Start with something easy. “This too shall pass. This too shall pass”. Is there some calming music you can listen to during your drive time? Classical? Jazz? Something with no words? Something with positive words? I personally have discovered the chants of…..are you ready?…..Buddhists. There is a buddhist chant for calm that I love. And it helps. And it’s so awesome to feel that first initial shift of a negative pattern from feeling gross and unbearable to a feeling of “that’s not so bad after all”. Once you start realizing how negative you are, you can start to shift from being upset and disappointed about something, to looking for the reason that happened in a more positive light. I have ALWAYS said, even before I truly started to work on being even more positive than I have ever been, that things happen for a reason. Some things are truly upsetting and send us directly into that negative thought process, I get it. But even in the most upsetting of times, I can work through and find a positive. It may take me a day or two, but it’s there for me to find. I do have a harder time finding those positive tidbits when I have negative banter going on around me, so it’s best if I can find some alone time to try to process those thoughts. For example, my mom passed away on Fathers Day. I thought that because she had been sick so long (YEARS) that I had processed all of those thoughts and feelings about my mom. I was going to be so happy and release so much energy wrapped up around her and her illness when she was gone – and then, suddenly, or really, not so suddenly, she was gone. The positives of that are, she is released from her physical body and mind and she is suddenly free. She now everywhere and anywhere. She is here and there. I can’t focus on the negative of her being sick for so long, being trapped in her mind and body and of the thought of losing my mom. I won’t allow myself to go there because to me, that’s negative and it’s not a productive process. I choose to remember the positives of her life and when I release the emotions now, it’s really more of joy that she was my mom and in remembrance of great times. I believe that we all go on to a better place, I have always and will always believe that. I do not believe in hell, I never have and never will. My beliefs serve me and only me. My kids will have their own beliefs but I will try to educate them to the best of my ability to pull those blinders off and think for themselves. To question everything and follow no one but themselves.
When we allow ourselves to drop the negative patterns and we naturally start thinking more positive thoughts, and imagine more positive scenes, things in our lives become more positive. Sometimes when we are on our positivity path, something gets thrown in that’s less than positive and that’s ok! If we can start to process those little hiccups in a more positive manner, they show up less and less. If you notice after a while of thinking more positive thoughts that “suddenly” more and more “negative” things happen, you need to evaluate your internal conversations. Those internal conversations have a huge impact on our day-to-day lives. You need to guard your thoughts and switch the negative thoughts “Why do I even bother, why me? Who cares anyway? I should have known this was going to happen”, to more positive thoughts. I try to process things in a less emotional way, more scientific, if I can. Ok, this happened, but why? Where are my thoughts taking me? And if they are taking me down a negative path, I do my best to get back on the green path of healthy thoughts. I really hope all of this makes sense. I feel like I was “called” to write this out and hope that it can help someone who may be struggling with negative patterns. If you have the mental clarity, you really need to work on visualization. Not just visualization but positive visualization. I found that when I first started trying to visualize, I couldn’t. I was so distracted, so grumpy from whatever the day had thrown at me, so pissed off, I couldn’t. My advice to you is, start small. Find a comfortable, quiet place and start by thinking about turning the lock on your door when you get home for the day. Feel the feeling of the lock turning and you opening the door. What color is your door knob? Is it hot or cold or somewhere in between? Is there chipped finish on it? Feel the lock and door knob in your hand. And then be done for the day. Every day it will get easier and easier. Your thoughts will wonder and banter will come up. Squash it down and force your mind back to the lock and the door knob. Eventually, start imagining other peaceful things that you’d like to see or have happen. Having a hard time at work with a co-worker? Imagine a scene in your mind of having a really pleasant conversation or interaction with that person. You won’t be able to do this straight away usually, it will probably take some practice, unless you are a rock star visualizer. You don’t need to tell anyone what you are doing, if anyone asks just tell them you need a few minutes of quiet time and go find your quiet spot. Eventually the positives will come to you without you seeking them. Including whatever reality you want. Do you wan the raise and the promotion? Find the time to visualize the conversation with your boss, or whoever is in charge that you are the perfect employee and they appreciate your hard work and here is your promotion, or your raise, or BOTH! It can be done. You can do it!